Fearless Friday

I am not a fan of fear. It holds us back, makes us scared of things that probably are not worthy of our time and energy, and it cripples us from moving forward.

The word fearless is defined as “lacking fear.”
Don’t you love definitions that include the word in the definition?
Since that’s the case here, we need to first take a look at what fear itself means.

Fear is:
– An unpleasant emotion caused by the belief that someone or something is dangerous, likely to cause pain, or a threat;
– A feeling of anxiety concerning the outcome of something or the safety and well-being of someone;
– The likelihood of something unwelcome happening.

Now, this brings up two more words that we need to define:
Emotion: a natural instinctive state of mind deriving from one’s circumstances, mood, or relationships with others; instinctive or intuitive feeling as distinguished from reasoning or knowledge.
Feeling: an emotional state or reaction; a belief, especially a vague or irrational one; a sensitivity to or intuitive understanding of; an opinion, typically one shared by several people.

Okay, I promise I’m done with definitions. There won’t be a quiz on them, so don’t worry; there’s no need to impress me with your flashcard making skills.

Fear is often seen as this huge cloud that hangs over us; this major concept that is way too hard to overcome – so instead, we just feed it and give into it. If we can’t beat fear, than we should just comply so that it doesn’t get the best of us, right?

WRONG. The point of giving you your English lesson of the day and showing you so many definitions was to show how silly fear looks when it’s broken down into simple words. It’s easier to face Mr. Fear when we see him for what he truly is.

Fear is only a state of mind, a belief, and an opinion. It’s developed by our own circumstances, our own moods. Now you’re thinking, “Kylie, what are you saying? We make fear up ourselves? It’s all in our heads?“
Well, yes.

I understand that there are some fears that are completely justified. If someone is threatening to kill you or take your last box of Thin Mints, you have all the permission in the world to be scared. That escalated quickly…

For this post, I am talking about the little lies we make up in our heads; the lies that creep into our dreams and tell us that something is too big, too scary, that we are not qualified, too young, too old, etc. Those are the lies that turn into the fear that keeps us where we are – never overcoming, taking risks, or trusting God’s plan. Anyways, it was Him who put those dreams there in the first place…

Here are some secrets about Mr. Fear:

  • Fear is afraid. Afraid to be exposed, and afraid of the light. This is why he likes to hide in the dark and quiet places. He only comes out at night. He knows that as soon as we speak his name out loud and reveal him in the light, his power is gone.
  • Fear loses his courage as soon as we write him down with black ink on that bright, white paper. He doesn’t like to look as small as he really is, so instead, he pretends to be a giant shadow of something much smaller.
  • Fear is a liar. He will try anything and everything to make himself look worse than he really is. He will twist your thinking and try to blame you and make you feel bad for being stuck or feeling scared. Remember, he’s the coward, not you.

Many of us have struggled with fear and have let him have a hold on us for far too long. This year is the year of fearless dreaming. It’s time to kick fear out the window, quit over-analyzing every little thing, and dream bigger and more than ever before.
So often, our dreams fall victim to our fears.
But not anymore!
Our dreams can only flourish when they can outgrow our fears. Fears are like weeds that try to choke our dreams. When we start to see them like that, it’s much easier to push them out of the way and give more thought to our dreams.
In the end, Mr. Fear is never worth it when he’s up against our dreams.

Lastly, here are some good reminders for all of us:

  • Psalm 118:6 – God is for us, so we will not fear. What can mere man do?
  • 2 Timothy 1:7 – God gave us a spirit of power and love, not of fear.
  • Joshua 1 – God is with us wherever and whenever. Br strong and courageous.
  • 1 John 4:18 – Perfect love casts out fear – AKA the antidote to fear is love. If we are experiencing fear, then maybe it’s been a while since we have experienced God’s love in a new or fresh way. That’s a revelation that never gets old.
  • Jeremiah 29:11 – His plans for us are good. Plans to give us hope and a future.

In the process of spring-cleaning, let’s weed out the scared little fears hiding in the dark and expose them – put them in the light of day, the light of accountability, and let them go.

So, what do you say?
Are you ready to kick fear out the window?