The most important Taylor Tuesday yet…

She’s done it again. Made our heart rates jump through the roof out of excitement, made our feet move and hips shake; and called out her haters once and for all.

Taylor’s new hit single off of her highly anticipated next album is a winner. On October 27th Taylor will release her 5th album aptly named 1989, the year Taylor was born. Shake It Off is the first song to be released off of her new album and we love it. Mostly because most of our dance moves are the same.

Check out the music video and dance along with us. And the rest of the world.

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Good news this week!

If you’re a fan of Taylor and Selena’s friendship like me, then you will be happy to know they are friends once again! Apparently, there was a little tiff/feud/whatever you want to call it, but at the 2014 Met Gala a couple weeks ago, they set everything aside and had the best night together. They’ve been friends again ever since. Yay!

Selena even posted a video on her Instagram of the two of them dancing and captioned it:
“sometimes you wanna just be you with someone who knows all your secrets.”

And isn’t that the truth?! One of the best parts of friendship is being accepted just as you are and having the freedom to be just who you are – sometimes sad, weird, crazy, quiet, hangry, hilarious, or whatever else. I’m lucky enough to have found incredible friends and I don’t know what I’d do without them. That being said, I’m so glad Selena and Taylor can be that for each other! It doesn’t matter who you are – we ALL need solid friends.

Here’s to friendship!
And an excuse to post a cute friendship picture….
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Taylor Swift wins the award for best Mother’s Day gift ever. She wrote her mom a song.

Don’t believe me? Check out “The Best Day” off of her Fearless CD. It’s an adorable song about times her mom has been there for her and loved her unconditionally. Most of us can agree that moms are the best, and since Mother’s Day is right around the corner, you should probably get busy writing that song for her.

Not a particularly good songwriter? Me neither. Let’s leave that one up to Taylor and get your mom some gorgeous jewelry instead! BUT WAIT, THERE’S MORE!

Check out Kado Boutique before you run to the store for that really terrible necklace that says “mom” on it.* She knows she’s a mom; she was there when you were born. How about getting her something that gives back? Kado is an organization that is very near and dear to our hearts, and here’s a quick peak into why that is.

*If you already purchased said “mom” necklace, you should return it – unless it came from Kate Spade. Go ahead and skip the jewelry counters at Walmart and Target this year – you would be much better off getting her something from Kado. I promise.

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I remember it like it was yesterday…

 

(Over the phone)

K: I have this brilliant plan.

C: What?!

K: We should go see Taylor Swift in Charlottesville in September.

C: Yesssssssssss.

 

Okay, so I don’t remember it like it was yesterday, because if I did, I would have remembered exactly what we said. And this is just a very basic framework of our conversation. I mean, come on, have you met me or Kylie? We like to talk. And we talk a lot and very fast when we are excited, which is exactly what we were when this discussion took place. So the memory is more of a blur.

One of the main things I remember about our plan was the ticket-buying experience. Kylie was our fearless leader (well just my fearless leader—Ashley had no clue what was going on. Not because she’s “slow,” but because we bought them without her knowing and surprised her with them later). Anyway, the tickets went fast. I mean REAL fast. Like 10 minutes after tickets were available online, things wouldn’t load, seats were gone, and we were trying to keep it together even though we feared seeing the two words every concert-goer is devastated to see: SOLD OUT.

But you all know how this story ends already. We DID get tickets and we had the most amazing time (we have the pictures to prove it).

The moral of my story is that one must be on their A-game if they are trying to buy Taylor tickets. Apparently, you must also have the fastest fingers and internet speed if you are trying to score a Taylor ticket for the RED tour at Shanghai’s Mercedes-Benz Arena in China. The show sold out in less than ONE MINUTE.
One. 1. Uno.
It happens to be the fastest ticket on-sale in Chinese history.
incREDible. (see what I did there?)

All I can say is that I am very glad that the good people of Virginia are much slower at buying tickets.

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True Confession Tuesday

“Shame is a soul eating emotion.” ― C.G. Jung

I’ve never read a quote that so perfectly described something in my life. Anyone who has ever dealt with any kind of shame understands this “soul eating” like no other.

Shame is a tricky thing. It’s not an act you can commit, yet once you do something that lets shame in, it controls pretty much every aspect of your life. What’s strange about shame is that it can either be brought on by something you did (messing up and feeling ashamed later), or it can be brought on by something that happened to you (something you had absolutely no control over).

*This post is about to get all sorts of personal. I’m going to use an example of a time I brought shame on myself and a time that shame was put on me without me having any control over it. I’m going to go through how shame controlled how I spoke, how I acted, and how I treated other people. So read on please, and I hope that this little look into my life story will help people who are also dealing with shame. *

We’ll start with shame I brought upon myself. I failed out of college. My GPA was a whopping 2.3 and that’s unacceptable, so I got kicked out. Over Christmas break of 2010, I snuck back to school when everyone was gone, packed up my dorm room in a whirlwind, texted my roommate and told her that I wasn’t coming back, and then hid at home for a few weeks. I brought this one upon myself. I knew I was failing. I had gotten the letters from school telling me, and yet I still thought having fun and hanging out was more important. Up until just recently, when people asked me why I “transferred” to the school I am at now, I lied and told them it was for financial reasons. That’s what I like to call a “shame says.” Shame says, “I can lie about this. It’s technically true and no one needs to know the real truth.” But that’s not true. By continually telling this lie, all I was doing was letting shame tighten its grasp on me. I told that lie so many times I started to believe it myself. Shame says, “You totally transferred to save money.” Anytime a group of people starting talking about school and I knew they were going to ask me where I went, my mind starting coming up with what I was going to say. Shame had an entire arsenal of responses to save me from being embarrassed or looking dumb. All the while, shame would make me feel terrible for lying and would tell me how dumb I “really was.”

Shame makes you keep things inside to save face. It tells you that people will make fun of you, that you’re stupid, that people will look at you differently, and in the end no one will be your friend. Every time you let a “shame says” speak instead of you, you’re letting it beat you up a little bit more.

Now onto shame that was put on me. I’ve been molested 3 times in my life. Once when I was 9, again when I was 15, and again when I was 17. Now there is a ton of stuff that comes along with any type of sexual abuse. And thank God for my parents and their love and help. When I finally told them about these things, I was able to really work through some things, but shame is the big thing that comes along with this. Each time it happened, I thought that somehow I had wanted it to happen or had asked for it in the sense of “leading someone on” or just not saying no. I felt weak and disgusting each time it happened because I had shame telling me “I deserved it,” and “I wanted it and liked it.” This shame made me not talk about it at all. Instead of having shame say things for me, it controlled how I acted. I became extremely closed off around everyone. When I was in relationships, it made me think that the only way to know that the guy loved or valued me was through physical acts. It made me so self aware of how I dressed and how I spoke. It completely controlled my interactions people, and it still does. I’m so much more aware of it now, and I’m still walking through ridding it from my life.

If anything like this has ever happened to you, you know that shame becomes a big aspect of your life, and it’s scary. It’s upsetting, and it makes you feel sick, stressed, annoyed and angry whenever the topic comes up. But there is good news. Shame is something that can be beat. It’s not so big that it will win. You can overcome it. If it’s shame you brought upon yourself—stop lying to other people about it. You’re not the first person to deal with whatever it is. You could be missing out on meeting other people who are dealing with the same thing. There is strength in numbers. Start with being honest with others, and you’ll be surprised how easy it is to be honest with yourself and not hate yourself for it. If it’s shame that has been put on you—let me tell you something: no matter what the circumstances were (or are) you do not deserve this. You did nothing wrong, and even if you did, you don’t deserve to be constantly beat up over it. Seek help. Find someone who loves you and confide in them. It will help. I promise.

Romans 10:11 – The Scripture says, “No man who believes in Him [who adheres to, relies on, and trusts in Him] will [ever] be put to shame or be disappointed.”

God never intended for us to live in shame. He died so that we could live freely. He did His part, so now we have to do our part. It’s up to us to take Him at His word and believe for shame to be broken.

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Taylor got a Tumblr! She’s a bit late to the game but hey, better late than never! So far her Tumblr is mostly Instagram pictures, but here’s hoping she starts posting even more. I love when my favorite artists give me another forum to stalk… I mean follow them on…

Anyway – if you want to see her adorable Tumblr the link is posted below.

http://taylorswift.tumblr.com/

Also, thanks Tay for making your Tumblr easy to find. We stalke… fans love it.

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